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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.
Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it.
Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*.
If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.
*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.
Episodes
109 episodes
109: How to Rest Without Becoming Lazy
Do you feel like you can only rest AFTER all the work is done?While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever al...
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108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How
Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system.So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it.This means learning how to slow down. AKA -
107: 5 Steps to Create Safety, Intimacy & Depth in Your Relationships | Adam Hudson
We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations.Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better.So what'...
106: Most Effective Practice to Heal Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for.The problem is that they don't address the root cause.E...
105: Why you pick even on a good day and how to stop
It's infuriating and confusing.Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting?The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated.AND the ...
104: Willpower will NEVER work but THIS does
You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body.But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago.So either you're a broken human being with no hope o...
103: Why you still feel stuck after all this time
You've spent months, years, if not decades, trying to figure out why you pick, pull, or bite at your body...And yet you STILL do it.Why?What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle?It's actually pretty straigh...
102: Hoping it will get better but it never does
If there's one experience we can all agree on...It's the feeling of hoping things will get better.Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free.
101: The most damaging myth about chronic skin picking & hair pulling
The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session.Why do I work with clients on this?It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in t...
100: 6 Life Changing Lessons About Chronic Skin Picking
I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same.These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the ...
99: Do You Have To Get Rid of STRESS To Be Free?
Stress is a big root cause of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting.With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM!It's partly true but mostly a to...
98: Why We Lose Hope About Healing From Skin Picking & How To Regain It
Hope is hard when you've tried for years to stop engaging in a behaviour that you logically understand is not good for you and yet seem to have no control over.It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better."I've spoken to ...
97: 6 Steps to Create Powerful Affirmations for Healing Skin Picking
Positive affirmations truly can help you to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting BUT...You've got to go about creating them in the right way.Most people don't, and so they end up with af...
96: Why "Healthy Habits" Are So Hard To Maintain
We all have a few abandoned and neglected HEALTHY habits weighing on the back of our minds..."I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby."We know they'd be good for us if w...
95: The Mental Trap That Will Ruin Your 2026
There's a 99% chance you've been in this trap.In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too.I did for ye...
94: How NOT to Heal From Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
This is what really works.And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment.I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the b...
93: Plan How You'll Heal From Chronic Skin Picking in 2026 (Science Based)
Most people set really crappy goals for the new year and wonder why, by mid-March, they seem to be no further than they were on January 1st.I personally don't love the idea of New Year's resolutions, but I absolutely love goal setting an...
92: 3 Ways to Help a Loved One With Chronic Skin Picking or Hair Pulling
Trying to get them to “just stop” isn’t working. In fact, it’s probably making things worse.There is a right way and a wrong way to support someone with a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB). Unfortunately, there is...
91: This is Why You Chronically Pick, Pull, & Bite
It's not because of genetics, or because you lack willpower, or because you're just a malfunctioning human being.It's because you didn't learn this one vital skill.This skill lies at the core of why
90: The Habit That Drains Your Joy
You'll be surprised how this is also making you pick, pull, and bite at your body...Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lost that zest for life. Rather than waking up looking forward to the day, we wake up not wanting to get ou...
89: A hidden behaviour that's keeping you stuck in picking & pulling
When you STOP venting, you'll take huge steps towards accessing freedom from chronic skin picking and hair pulling.And when I say "venting", I mean the cathartic act of complaining or offloading about your problems onto a loving and list...
88: You could be missing this vital piece to inner freedom
Skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting won't stop without this vital piece.I've spoken to hundreds of people like you in this community, and they all want the same thing: relief, a break, the space to be themselves w...
87: Is It Truly Possible To Be Free From Picking & Pulling?
Are you making this big mistake too?"When I stop picking, I'll be free, I'll be able to relax and just be."Yes, finding freedom from skin picking and hair pulling will have a drastically positive impact on your life, BUT what most...
86: How to Beat PMS & Menopause with Strength Training | Vanessa Kerr
If you’ve been feeling moody, foggy, or struggling with PMS or menopause symptoms, this episode is going to shift the way you see your body.My guest, Vanessa Kerr, is one of Australia’s most respected strength coaches and the owne...
85: "Just Stopping" Doesn't Work... Here's What Does
Most people try to “fix” skin picking or hair pulling by focusing on the behaviour, but that’s why we stay stuck in it.In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root ...